It’s very easy to buy into the hype and self-fulfillment of constantly posting on social media photos, status updates and life rants. But, to avoid being “that mom”, here are some things to keep in mind next time you’re tempted to “stir the pot”.

1. Over posting

We love pictures of your kids. But if I know exactly what you did all day, then you have definitely gone too far. Posting a new picture, status update or article every hour or gets to be a little bit much. Remember SparkNotes? Keep the notes on your life brief and leave us wondering. We don’t need every little detail.

2. Multi-level marketing

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There are probably plenty of people out there who like Tupperware or candle parties, but I hate getting suckered into those things and being forced to make awkward conversation and buy something I don’t want in the name of “friendship”. Multi-level marketing is awful — and it just got worse.

There is a big difference between effective social media marketing and guilt tripping. We all love our friends, but please don’t pester us constantly with notifications. If it’s something we genuinely want, we will buy it and support you 100%.

3. Selfies

Cute selfies? Definitely keep them coming. (Let’s be honest. We all take them.) Posting selfies on a regular basis? No. You can be proud of your outfit and the way you look, but when you post a highly filtered selfie every day it displays a lack of self-confidence. Give the camera to someone else once in awhile so we know you’re having fun and not just snapping photos of yourself all the time.

4. Be real

We want to cheer for you, your family, and your successes. Sharing joy is just another great aspect of social media. But, nobody’s life is perfect. Don’t be afraid to be your true self online. Share the good moments, and let people support you during the hard ones. Facebook is a great place to get support during difficult times.

5. Inappropriate content

Please keep the trash off of the internet. Don’t post pictures or articles that someone would be embarrassed to see, or they would be embarrassed for their children or boss to see on their computer.

6. Name calling

Everyone appreciates a good debate, and Facebook is an excellent platform to share your thoughts and opinions – but please, please, please don’t get sucked in to useless name calling. Be respectful when you don’t agree.

7. Cryptic status updates

Posts like, “I can’t believe that just happened” with no follow up are annoying and appropriate only for angsty teenagers. Be real with your friends and family — and don’t write posts just to get follow-up questions that give you unnecessary amounts of attention. “What happened?” means your post was too cryptic.

What social media laws do you follow in order to be more mindful of others?